Who are you, what is your core-being really all about? What is the theme of your life, your entire life? Can a person have such a thing? Aren’t we a whole lot more complicated than just one theme, one defined core idea? But if you did have a core theme, how would you go about finding it? Read the rest of this entry »
Discovering Who You Really Are
March 30th, 2010The Protestant Work Ethic, What’s wrong With It?
February 19th, 2010What is the Protestant Work Ethic, or is it the Puritan Work Ethic (PWE)? To put it succinctly, for me, the PWE means you have no worth (in society, your family and to yourself) unless you are productive each and every day and you get all your work done before you take time to play. The trouble is there never is any time to play because there is always more work to do. Read the rest of this entry »
Setting Limits, Why is it So hard?
January 30th, 2010How come just saying “No” never really works?
I’ll tell you why. Because for most of us, saying “No” is the hardest thing we have to do in our daily lives. Most women but many men too just avoid it by running themselves ragged, even to the point of illness, doing for others rather than saying, “No” to them. Read the rest of this entry »
Letting go, Exquisite Agony (short version)
January 28th, 2010Letting go, Exquisite Agony ( short version)
In the mid 80′s, I had the good fortune to interview Mr. James Cox several months before he died. His father had purchased some of the St. Augustine Ranch (on the western edge of White Sands Missile Range between Alamogordo and Las Cruces,) from a James MacAllister, so he was curious about me as well. Mr. Cox was an avid historian too, so we were in “hog heaven” so to speak, talking for hours about the history of the Mesilla Valley (in Southern New Mexico). One of the questions I asked Mr. Cox as I do of every elderly person I have the privilege to interview was, “If you had one piece of advice to give to young people today, what would it be?” Read the rest of this entry »
How Do You Know You Are Loved?
January 27th, 2010How many of you feel liked by someone, appreciated by someone, loved by someone? Now how do you know that? How do you know you are cared for or about? How do you know you are appreciated? How do you know you are loved—by friends, fellow group members, your siblings, your partners, your children? What exactly is it that makes you feel loved or cared for or appreciation? Read the rest of this entry »